{"id":2066450,"date":"2025-10-03T11:16:20","date_gmt":"2025-10-03T11:16:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/?p=2066450"},"modified":"2025-10-03T11:16:20","modified_gmt":"2025-10-03T11:16:20","slug":"taylor-swifts-ruin-the-friendship-is-devastating-but-it-has-nothing-to-do-with-blake-lively","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/taylor-swifts-ruin-the-friendship-is-devastating-but-it-has-nothing-to-do-with-blake-lively\/","title":{"rendered":"Taylor Swift&#8217;s &#8216;Ruin the Friendship&#8217; is devastating \u2014 but it has nothing to do with Blake Lively"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div data-article-body=\"true\">\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">When <a rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/ew.com\/person\/taylor-swift\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:Taylor Swift;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" class=\"link \">Taylor Swift<\/a> first revealed the track list for her new album, <em>The Life of a Showgirl<\/em>, some fans immediately clocked one song titled &#8220;Ruin the Friendship,&#8221; speculating that it was about her rumored falling-out with her longtime confidant <a rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/ew.com\/person\/blake-lively\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:Blake Lively;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" class=\"link \">Blake Lively<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">To recap: Lively is embroiled in a <a rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/ew.com\/complete-timeline-of-blake-lively-and-justin-baldoni-legal-battle-8778862\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:very public legal battle;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" class=\"link \">very public legal battle<\/a> with her <em>It Ends With Us<\/em> director and costar Justin Baldoni, which Swift <a rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/ew.com\/judge-for-blake-lively-justin-baldoni-case-denies-bid-to-depose-taylor-swift-11809536\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:got pulled into against her will;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" class=\"link \">got pulled into against her will<\/a>, leaving some to ponder if the dispute significantly strained the singer&#8217;s relationship with Lively. Neither has publicly addressed the rumors.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">As <em>Entertainment Weekly<\/em> <a rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/ew.com\/is-taylor-swift-song-ruin-the-friendship-about-blake-lively-11791456\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:previously noted;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" class=\"link \">previously noted<\/a>, Swift says she recorded <em>Showgirl<\/em> during the European leg of her Eras Tour, so likely between May and August of 2024. If the album was written and recorded during that time, &#8220;Ruin the Friendship&#8221; likely isn&#8217;t about Lively, given that the <em>It Ends With Us<\/em> drama began in earnest in December of last year.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Now those theories about &#8220;Ruin the Friendship&#8221; have officially been debunked. Instead of ruminating on a recent rift, the mid-tempo track starts off with Swift thinking about an old pal from high school and what could have been between them. The singer recalls Nashville&#8217;s Gallatin Road, watching games from the boy&#8217;s Jeep, and even details from her high school prom \u2014 50 Cent shout-out and all \u2014 as she laments in the chorus, &#8220;And it was not an invitation \/ Should&#8217;ve kissed you anyway.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Later, she confesses that while she and the boy were close, she didn&#8217;t take their relationship further because she didn&#8217;t want to\u2026 ruin the friendship: &#8220;Don&#8217;t make it awkward in second period,&#8221; Swift sings. &#8220;Might piss your ex off \/ Lately we&#8217;ve been good \/ Staying friends is safe \/ Doesn&#8217;t mean you should.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">But a little bittersweet reminiscing this is not: &#8220;Ruin the Friendship&#8221; features an absolutely heart-wrenching third-act twist. Dropping her voice to a mournful whisper, Swift sings, &#8220;When I left school I lost track of you \/ Abigail called me with the bad news \/ Goodbye&#8230; \/ And we&#8217;ll never know why.&#8221;<\/p>\n<figure class=\"relative mb-4\">\n<div class=\"relative\"><\/div><figcaption class=\"relative text-sm mt-1 pr-2.5\">\n<div style=\"max-height:none;overflow:visible\">\n<p>Mert Alas &amp; Marcus Piggot<\/p>\n<p> The back cover art of Taylor Swift&#8217;s &#8216;The Life of a Showgirl&#8217;<\/p><\/div>\n<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\"><strong><em>Sign up for\u00a0<\/em><a rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/forms.dotdashmeredith.com\/ew-tv-inline-offer\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:Entertainment Weekly's free daily newsletter;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" class=\"link \">Entertainment Weekly<em>&#8216;s free daily newsletter<\/em><\/a>\u00a0<em>to get breaking TV news, exclusive first looks, recaps, reviews, interviews with your favorite stars, and more.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Abigail, as true Swifties know, is Abigail Anderson Berard, Swift&#8217;s close friend since high school. She&#8217;s also heavily featured in Swift&#8217;s song &#8220;Fifteen,&#8221; off her 2008 album, <em>Fearless<\/em>. &#8220;Ruin the Friendship&#8221; doesn&#8217;t state which of their high school friends has died, but Swift does use a lyrical callback toward the end of it, singing, &#8220;It was not an invitation \/ But I flew home anyway \/ With so much left to say.&#8221; Capturing the pain of losing an old friend who was way too young, she continues, &#8220;It was not convenient, no \/ But I whispered at the grave \/ &#8216;Should&#8217;ve kissed you anyway.'&#8221;<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Swift saves one final gut punch for the song&#8217;s conclusion, in which she reflects on the lesson she&#8217;s learned and offers some words of wisdom: &#8220;My advice is always ruin the friendship \/ Better that than regret it \/ For all time.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Damn you, Taylor Swift.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Read the original article on <a rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/ew.com\/taylor-swift-ruin-the-friendship-lyrics-not-about-blake-lively-life-of-a-showgirl-11823615\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:Entertainment Weekly;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" class=\"link \">Entertainment Weekly<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p><em> \u2018 The preceding article may include information circulated by third parties \u2019 <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em> \u2018 Some details of this article were extracted from the following source www.yahoo.com \u2019 <\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When Taylor Swift first revealed the track list for her new album, The Life of a Showgirl, some fans immediately clocked one song titled &#8220;Ruin the Friendship,&#8221; speculating that it was about her rumored falling-out with her longtime confidant Blake Lively. 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