From the moment I heard Taylor Swift<\/a> name \u201cEldest Daughter\u201d as\u00a0the track five title of her new album<\/a> during Travis and Jason Kelce\u2019s \u201cNew Heights\u201d podcast<\/a>, I knew this song would wreck me.<\/p>\n Swift is known for her devastating track five ballads<\/a>. Non-Swifties can listen back to \u201cWhite Horse,\u201d \u201cDear John\u201d and \u201cAll Too Well\u201d<\/a> to get the gist. As a pre-teen, teen and now 28-year-old woman, I always felt that the lyrics in these songs sharply exposed the most fragile parts of my girlhood<\/a> and insecurities. \u201cI hosted parties and starved my body, like I’d be saved by a perfect kiss,\u201d Swift sings in \u201cYou\u2019re On Your Own, Kid\u201d from her “Midnights” album. She perfectly captured my inner self-saboteur, my feelings of yearning and not-enough-ness.<\/p>\n 1<\/span> of 19<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n Taylor Swift’s<\/a> 12th studio album “The Life of a Showgirl”<\/a> drops Friday, Oct. 4, and the album marks a glamorous new era for the pop star. It was also inspired by her life behind the scenes during the Eras Tour. <\/p>\n She’s been influenced by many throughout her career, scroll through to see the people who inspired the music and fashion behind her new era. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n Add in a dash of keep-it-cool and a sprinkle of \u201ccautious discretion\u201d (one of my favorite lyrics from the new song) and you\u2019ve got yourself an eldest daughter. It\u2019s me, hi, I\u2019m the eldest daughter, it\u2019s me.<\/p>\n More: <\/strong>Taylor Swift ups her game again on playful ‘Life of a Showgirl’<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n I\u2019m the eldest of three girls, and being the eldest daughter is a big part of my personality.<\/p>\n I wouldn’t say I helped raise my two little sisters in the way some other eldest daughters do, cooking meals or driving their siblings to school each day. We were fortunate to have very present and loving parents, much like Swift and Austin (her younger brother by two and a half years) had in their parents Andrea and Scott.<\/p>\n But I was an occasional chauffeur and babysitter, and more than anything I put outrageous pressure on myself to pave a path worth following. An eldest daughter is “the first lamb to slaughter,” after all, as Swift sings on the new track.<\/p>\n Enquirer education reporter Madeline Mitchell modeled her Eras Tour outfit after the dress Taylor Swift wore to the 63rd annual Grammy Awards. Swift won album of the year for “Folklore” that year.<\/p>\n Although it’s not a clinical condition, eldest daughter syndrome is a “commonly experienced phenomenon” in which firstborn daughters carry undue emotional pressure, high expectations and extra responsibilities, according to Charlie Health<\/a>, an online therapy platform. Eldest daughters might help take care of their younger siblings, do chores around the house or take on their parents’ emotional baggage when things get tough, according to the Cleveland Clinic<\/a>.<\/p>\n Mitchell’s first concert was in 2013, when she saw Taylor Swift’s Red tour with her sisters Mollie and Mia, and best friends Allie and Lauren.<\/p>\n Typical eldest daughter characteristics include being responsible, independent, empathic, caring, a perfectionist, stressed and anxious, the Cleveland Clinic notes.I can check off every one of those traits. Some of them helped me succeed in school and now in my career, while others made me closed off and untrusting of new relationships. That is, until \u2212 like Swift \u2212 I found a youngest son (Travis Kelce is 23 months younger than his brother Jason).<\/p>\n In “Eldest Daughter,” Swift sings about feigning disinterest (“apathy is hot”) and “trying to seem cool.”<\/p>\n “When you found me, I said I was busy. That was a lie,” she croons, likely referencing her now-fianc\u00e9.<\/p>\n I, too, have been standoffish and picky in dating. I can’t pin that all on being an eldest daughter, but I’m sure that’s part of it.<\/p>\n When I started dating Oliver, my boyfriend, three years ago, he wanted to take care of things, of me. I had built my life and identity around being a helper who didn’t need help, even when I did. It took some time to accept his kindness, but eventually I leaned into it. And it’s really nice.<\/p>\n This week I’ve been feeling under the weather, with a cough and a sore throat. Oliver has brought me countless cups of tea, went to the store to pick up medicine and cozied up next to me for hours watching funny videos online. We laugh a lot when we’re together \u2212 big belly laughs like we’re kids. In “Eldest Daughter,” Swift alludes to having this kind of fun and freeing relationship with Kelce: “The last time I laughed this hard\u00a0was on the trampoline in somebody\u2019s backyard. I must have been about 8 or 9.”<\/p>\n USA TODAY reporter Madeline Mitchell and her boyfriend, Oliver Greive, in Paris.<\/p>\n Swift deviates, or even graduates, from her typical track five tearjerker with “Eldest Daughter.” The song is not just about her scars, but how she healed them.<\/p>\n While an eldest daughter “was the first lamb to slaughter,” Swift sings, “every youngest child felt they were raised up in the wild. But now you’re home.”<\/p>\n My home is a silly, kind, crinkle-eyed<\/a> Ohio<\/a> boy, too.<\/p>\n In friendships, I gravitate toward other eldest daughters \u2014 and Swifties. I stayed up late Thursday night to listen to “The Life of a Showgirl” as soon as it dropped \u2014 and I wanted all of my eldest daughter friends’ takes on our new theme song.<\/p>\n My friend Jenny<\/a>, “a proud eldest daughter,” points out that this new track adds to Swift’s rich catalog of “birth-order anthems” like “Mine,” “The Archer,” “Mirrorball” and “Dear Reader,” which “all encapsulate classic ‘oldest’ tropes.”<\/p>\n “A lot of people were thinking it was going to be about her brother [Austin],” my friend Caroline said. “It was really cool that it was about her finding someone who takes care of her as an eldest daughter.”<\/p>\n Taylor Swift is deeply in love and not afraid to sing about it on “The Life of a Showgirl,” her 12th album out Oct. 3, 2025.<\/p>\n Allie, my best friend since childhood and another eldest daughter, said she especially connected with the line “I’m never gonna leave you now.”<\/p>\n “The refrain felt so relatable as someone whose life experience and personality is very much defined by wanting to take care of the people I love,” which started with her little sister, Allie says.<\/p>\n I thought “Eldest Daughter” would wreck me. Instead, it made me grateful for the love in my life, and how I’ve grown from a little girl who put too much pressure on herself to a woman who gives herself grace. So thank you, Taylor, for being the big sister to all the eldest daughters out there. You always know what to say.<\/p>\n Madeline Mitchell’s role covering women and the caregiving economy at USA TODAY is supported by a partnership with\u00a0Pivotal<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0Journalism Funding Partners<\/a>. Funders do not provide editorial input.<\/p>\n Reach Madeline at\u00a0memitchell@usatoday.com<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0@maddiemitch_<\/a>on X.<\/p>\nHow Elizabeth Taylor, Bruce Springsteen and more have inspired Taylor Swift’s songwriting<\/h2>\n
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Dear Taylor Swift<\/a>, thank you. Love, eldest daughters everywhere.<\/h2>\n
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