{"id":2091099,"date":"2025-10-14T19:47:06","date_gmt":"2025-10-14T19:47:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/?p=2091099"},"modified":"2025-10-14T19:47:06","modified_gmt":"2025-10-14T19:47:06","slug":"youtubers-dan-and-phil-reveal-theyve-been-dating-for-16-years","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/youtubers-dan-and-phil-reveal-theyve-been-dating-for-16-years\/","title":{"rendered":"YouTubers Dan and Phil reveal they&#8217;ve been dating for 16 years"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div data-element=\"story-body\" data-subscriber-content=\"\">\n<p>British vloggers Dan Howell and Phil Lester \u2014 known for their gaming and comedic slice-of-life style videos \u2014 are taking ownership of their long-rumored romance after more than a decade of incessant fan \u201cshipping\u201d online.<\/p>\n<p>The longtime collaborators revealed Monday that they have been dating for more than a decade, pretty much since they gained popularity in the late aughts. The YouTubers confirmed they have been an item in a <a rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Cxe_YMJ4nUs\" target=\"_blank\">46-minute video<\/a> titled \u201cAre Dan and Phil in a Relationship?\u201d <\/p>\n<p>\u201cWe fell into it hard and fast in 2009,\u201d Howell, 34, said. \u201cAnd here we are almost 16 years later.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Before Howell and Lester, 38, spoke about the origins of their couple-dom, the YouTubers\u2014 who both <a rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=lrwMja_VoM0\" target=\"_blank\">came out<\/a> <a rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=UqXFKSWniVU\" target=\"_blank\">as gay <\/a>in 2019 \u2014 talked extensively about why they waited go public with their relationship. First, they tackled some fans\u2019 obsessive behavior. <\/p>\n<p>Howell and Lester began appearing in each other\u2019s YouTube videos in the late aughts and eventually, in 2014, launched their shared gaming <a rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@DanAndPhil\/videos\" target=\"_blank\">channel<\/a> \u2014 that page currently boasts 2.95 million subscribers. The pair documented their lives together, opening the door for fans to speculate on their relationship and foster a parasocial connection, Howell explained in the video. Among the most prominent internet personalities at the time, Howell and Lester often became the subject of fan fiction and fan <a rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/phanchester.tumblr.com\/post\/665439614065131520\/happy-dan-and-phil-day\" target=\"_blank\">edits on Tumblr<\/a>. <\/p>\n<p>\u201cSome think that shipping real-life people is problematic. I think that humans cannot stop this natural tendency,\u201d Howell said, later adding that \u201ca line gets crossed\u201d when fan speculation turns into investigation. <\/p>\n<p>The pair recalled fans combing through their old social media posts, reaching out to their loved ones and filming them out in the real world. \u201cIf all this digging, investigating was small it could\u2019ve been ignored,\u201d Lester said. <\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe problem is this became so big we could not ignore it,\u201d Howell continued.<\/p>\n<div class=\"enhancement\" data-click=\"enhancement\" data-align-center=\"\">\n<div class=\"video-enhancement\" data-video-disable-history=\"\">\n<div class=\"video-enhancement-player\">  <ps-youtubeplayer data-video-player=\"\" class=\"youtube-video-player video-player youtube-video-player-facade\" data-player-id=\"f297dd25496d744d68a27b316dfb90c31\" data-video-id=\"Cxe_YMJ4nUs\" data-video-title=\"Are Dan and Phil in a Relationship?\" data-slot-name=\"\/21787098806\/web.latimes\/entertainment-arts\/video\" data-lazy-offset=\"1.0\" data-autoplay-threshold=\"50\" data-miniplayer=\"\" data-internal-video-id=\"Cxe_YMJ4nUs\" data-ad-slot-name=\"\/21787098806\/web.latimes\/entertainment-arts\/video\" data-ad-provider=\"ima\" data-ima-sdk-url=\"https:\/\/imasdk.googleapis.com\/js\/sdkloader\/ima3.js\" data-ima-ad-tag-url=\"https:\/\/pubads.g.doubleclick.net\/gampad\/ads?sz=640x480&amp;gdfp_req=1&amp;env=vp&amp;output=vast&amp;unviewed_position_start=1&amp;cmsid=2652439&amp;ad_rule=0&amp;plcmt=1\">  <picture><source srcset=\"https:\/\/img.youtube.com\/vi_webp\/Cxe_YMJ4nUs\/maxresdefault.webp\" type=\"image\/webp\"\/><source srcset=\"https:\/\/img.youtube.com\/vi\/Cxe_YMJ4nUs\/maxresdefault.jpg\"\/> <\/picture> <button type=\"button\" class=\"youtube-video-player-facade-button\" aria-label=\"Play\"> <svg class=\"icon\"><use xlink:href=\"http:\/\/www.latimes.com\/styleguide\/assets\/misc-icons.svg#icon-youtube-play\"\/><\/svg> <\/button>      <\/ps-youtubeplayer> <\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<p>Howell and Lester also recalled fans dissecting their on-camera interactions and spreading the romance rumors during live events. Ultimately, the rumors became \u201ctoo loud to ignore,\u201d Lester said.<\/p>\n<p>Howell said he was wary about how going public with Lester would impact their professional dynamic and spoke candidly about how his struggles with his sexuality affected their relationship. <\/p>\n<p>\u201cI had an extremely homophobic childhood,\u201d Howell said, adding that the constant fan pressure to address the rumors took a toll on his mental health. He said that when he and Lester gained popularity he felt he \u201chad to hide the relationship because I was still hiding who I was to my friends, family, myself.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Online chatter didn\u2019t help and \u201chit a nerve,\u201d he said. Howell said Lester was \u201clike a literal ray of light in my life back then\u201d and committed to protecting their relationship. <\/p>\n<p>\u201cSo when other people tried to grab it and drag it into the light, I felt completely violated,\u201d Howell continued. \u201cHaving all of these people trying to out us and being so hostile to me when I tried to hide it was so triggering. Honestly, it could\u2019ve killed me.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Lester added: \u201cIt\u2019s sad because those should\u2019ve been the happiest times of our life. It was so amazing and we were having so much fun personally.\u201d <\/p>\n<p>Invasive fan behavior hung over their success \u201clike a curse\u201d and that led to anxiety and panic attacks, Howell said. Lester also recalled a \u201cbreaking point\u201d in their relationship where a personal video leaked on YouTube and spread online, with re-posters refusing to take it down. <\/p>\n<p>As they acknowledged the negative impact of some fans\u2019 invasive behavior, the YouTubers said they don\u2019t hold a grudge. Howell said the skeptics \u201cwere just young people that had absolutely no idea what the effects of their actions were.\u201d <\/p>\n<p> \u201cIn the same way that we all want people in our lives to give us patience and grace and benefit of the doubt if we ever make a mistake, I have to extend that to the world in regards to this story,\u201d he added. \u201cSo I understand and I forgive.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Howell and Lester, whose work also includes BBC Radio programming and several live tours, ended their video announcing the launch of a new podcast. <\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><em> \u2018 The preceding article may include information circulated by third parties \u2019 <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em> \u2018 Some details of this article were extracted from the following source www.latimes.com \u2019 <\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>British vloggers Dan Howell and Phil Lester \u2014 known for their gaming and comedic slice-of-life style videos \u2014 are taking ownership of their long-rumored romance after more than a decade of incessant fan \u201cshipping\u201d online. 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