\nHow do I deal with male-centered friends?<\/h2>\n
Be nice to them and get over your superiority complex.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m kinda uptight and I don\u2019t think I\u2019m a lot of fun. I\u2019m shy and not spontaneous at all. I don\u2019t have tons of friends and I would like to. I pressure myself to entertain people but don\u2019t enjoy it. What do I do?<\/h2>\n
I used to be an enthusiastic host. I lived in a studio apartment with a jukebox and a pool table. Now I live in a mansion with an air purifier and cable TV. I love watching TV and apparently cable is a real asset because I\u2019ll have these \u201cTV parties\u201d where one or two people will come over and we just sit there, passing around the clicker and grazing the airwaves together. Don\u2019t subscribe to the type of fun that you think you should be having. Make a list of all the things you do like doing. It\u2019s not easy because you probably can\u2019t remember or aren\u2019t even conscious of the things you enjoy. But they\u2019re in there so take your time and get specific because these are the kinds of things you\u2019re gonna start doing, with or without people. So what if you\u2019re uptight and not spontaneous? Most people are. Most people are also shy and very few have lots of friends. Just the fact that you want to have fun and you know that this ain\u2019t it tells me you\u2019re probably more fun than the people you\u2019re trying so hard to entertain. <\/p>\n
I\u2019m bad at greeting people in person. It\u2019s uncomfortable. I never know what to go with and don\u2019t love hugging and kissing people I barely know. But that\u2019s what everyone else does. I get anxious right before and worry I\u2019ll mess it up, so I end up making it even more awkward. Help.<\/h2>\n
There are several ways one can greet a person. Handshakes, kisses, waving, saluting, etc. (The half hug can feel quite hollow and perfunctory.) Whatever your preferred method is, be direct and execute with confidence. People will appreciate the leadership. I know a man who doesn\u2019t shake hands or embrace but is warm and assertive about letting you know. My sister is a lip kisser. She aligns herself skillfully, confidently and will steady your face if she must. For farewells, I like to excuse myself to the bathroom or step outside for a cigarette and then just go home. In all instances, the offering is executed quickly and efficiently, and that\u2019s all anyone really wants anyway.<\/p>\n
What should I do for my birthday if I only have two friends?<\/h2>\n
Laser tag. It\u2019s low-stakes war and a great workout. You can bring your friends if you want to, but I\u2019d recommend getting in on someone else\u2019s party or family outing. The anonymity allows you to feel no mercy.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m an alcoholic girl, functional and not ugly, but it\u2019s clearly an issue to others. What do I do? I don\u2019t want to give up drinking forever.<\/h2>\n
I think you mean to say that you are a functioning alcoholic<\/em>, which refers to an alcoholic whose drinking doesn\u2019t seem to affect their daily life, responsibilities and may even go undetected by others. Since you are clearly hammered. I\u2019m going to guess you are an alcoholic who is functional enough to convey this message. I have no opinion on whether you should drink or not drink. But I do think that \u201cforever\u201d is one of those silly words used for dramatic effect by teens and drunk people. It\u2019s rarely honest or rational, which is why it\u2019s particularly handy in guarding against trying something new. I also know that if you do give up drinking, it\u2019s unlikely something you\u2019ll regret. Regardless of forever.<\/p>\nHow do I stop being friends with someone?<\/h2>\n
Take them out to dinner and spend most of the night showing them your favorite Instagram Reels. Invite them over and insist on playing Cards Against Humanity. When you get invited somewhere, bring your other half presumptuously. In fact, think of every invite as having a plus-one. Send them text messages so long that they need to be tapped on and opened. Pour them a bowl of Lucky Charms and give them way too many marshmallows. Next time they share something personal, tell them it\u2019s TMI. Use exclamation points in your text messages when you don\u2019t even mean to yell. Ask them to AirDrop something to you.<\/p>\n
Any conversational pet peeves?<\/h2>\n
I think we need to stop using the word \u201cgaslight\u201d for a while. It\u2019s overused and therefore misused. Gaslighting is a pretty intense control tactic. But people are using the term in reference to self-defensively denying another person\u2019s reality. Which is a fairly normal response to feeling misjudged or misperceived, regardless of who is right or wrong. But it\u2019s not gaslighting. In order for a behavior to qualify as gaslighting, it has to be a conscious effort to conceal the truth by deliberately denying what is real. The only reason I even care is because I\u2019m noticing a trend of eye rolls coming from men in particular, whenever the word gets used. And to me, a male eye roll is a serious cause for concern. So I vote to shelve the term for a time, whilst we recalibrate. <\/p>\n
I\u2019m having trouble deciding what career will be the most ideal for me. How do you make the decision in life to stop wasting time and start focusing on your purpose?<\/h2>\n
Ideal career? Wasting time? Focus? Purpose?! If you\u2019re sitting around thinking about this with some amount of regularity it\u2019s no wonder you don\u2019t have friends. It\u2019s not your fault. A lot of people don\u2019t know how to have fun. Hanging out with friends, shooting the shit, eating lunch, going out dancing, and the like are kind of obsolete. No one is really shooting straight because if it\u2019s not project-related then it\u2019s at least somehow<\/em> written into the \u201cpick me\u201d campaign agenda. Maybe you\u2019ll get a cute photo out of it for your social media, align yourself with the crowd you\u2019d like to be associated with, get some material for a play, make a new client, or bend someone\u2019s ear about your idea for the play. Gone are the days when a good old-fashioned dry hump or winning a round of Gin Rummy were markers of a successful hang. Instead, we\u2019re sprinting for our dreams and gunning for goals because greatness is the real MO. That\u2019s why you\u2019re too exhausted to just chill. You\u2019re knocking items off of the to-do list so you can get back to finding your very own \u201cpurpose.\u201d You tinker around your useless laboratory, racking your brain for the method, trying hard to focus on something. Anything that might hone the uniqueness. Then, suddenly, while you\u2019re mapping out that ideal career, you remember, to your horror, that in order for your life to qualify as \u201cwell-lived,\u201d you have to have some fun. Like, actual fun, like Mick Jagger or F. Scott Fitzgerald had. So you pencil in some time for non-work-related play time or \u201cme-days.\u201d That way you\u2019ll have something to think about on your deathbed. Date pending.<\/p>\nDo you have any show-offs or party tricks?<\/h2>\n
Yes. I\u2019ve met half of the hosts from the TCM channel and once I almost met Michael Jackson. I have the same birthday as Will Smith. I was suspended from art school twice. I am a diagnosed narcissist and some other things but that one really seems to rile up the crowd. As a kid, my family moved house seven times. I can build and stretch a beautiful canvas. I don\u2019t do abdominal exercises because my muscles get too jacked and I scare off the boys. I used to steal artwork from the drying racks in school and present them to my parents as my own. It took me five times to pass my driver\u2019s test. I have an uncle and aunt who are half my age and I keep a comprehensive spreadsheet of every movie I\u2019ve ever seen and every movie I want to see. It\u2019s organized by decade but I\u2019m currently reorganizing by director.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n
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