{"id":2355998,"date":"2026-04-02T20:30:12","date_gmt":"2026-04-02T20:30:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/?p=2355998"},"modified":"2026-04-02T20:30:12","modified_gmt":"2026-04-02T20:30:12","slug":"amanda-batula-west-wilson-the-art-of-the-chaotic-post-divorce-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/amanda-batula-west-wilson-the-art-of-the-chaotic-post-divorce-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Amanda Batula, West Wilson &#038; The Art of the Chaotic Post-Divorce Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div data-article-body=\"true\">\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">When Amanda Batula and Kyle Cooke announced their separation on January 18, it seemed clear to a fandom obsessed with taking sides that there was only one person to stand behind. <em>Summer House<\/em> fans celebrated their breakup with TikTok edits of Batula and Cooke\u2019s many arguments set to the chorus of Chappell Roan\u2019s \u201cThe Subway,\u201d showing clips of Batula in tears over Cooke\u2019s name-calling set to the lyrics, \u201cShe got away.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">For 10 years, fans of the New York-based Bravo reality show watched Batula, 34, move through the stages of her relationship with Cooke, the show\u2019s Peter Pan, while pushing past the concerns aired by the audience, fellow cast members, and her own parents. Cooke, 43, remained unfazed by such worries, chugging cans of his alcoholic beverage brand Loverboy in Hamptons bars and coming home late to Batula before wondering why she wasn\u2019t ready to have kids with him. About a year before their breakup, Cooke launched a career as a DJ, and in a particularly egregious moment seen in a recent episode, Cooke called his wife a \u201cf-cking dumb-ss b-tch\u201d mere months before they ended things.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\"><strong>More from SheKnows<\/strong><\/p>\n<figure class=\"relative mb-4\">\n<div class=\"relative\"><button aria-label=\"View larger image\" class=\"group absolute bottom-0 size-full\" data-ylk=\"elm:expand;itc:1;sec:image-lightbox;slk:lightbox-open;\"><span class=\"absolute bottom-3 right-3 rounded-full bg-white p-3 opacity-100 shadow-elevation-3 transition-opacity duration-300 group-hover:block group-hover:opacity-100 md:p-[17px] lg:bottom-6 lg:right-6 lg:bg-white\/90 lg:p-5 lg:opacity-0 lg:shadow-none\"><svg viewbox=\"0 0 22 22\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"size-4 lg:size-6\" width=\"22\" height=\"22\"><path d=\"M12.372.92c0-.506.41-.916.915-.916L21 0l-.004 7.712a.917.917 0 0 1-1.832 0V3.183l-6.827 6.828-1.349-1.348 6.828-6.828h-4.529a.915.915 0 0 1-.915-.915M1.835 17.816l6.828-6.828 1.349 1.349-6.829 6.827h4.529a.915.915 0 0 1 0 1.831L0 21l.004-7.713a.916.916 0 0 1 1.831 0z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/button><dialog aria-label=\"Modal Dialog\" aria-modal=\"true\" class=\"fixed bottom-0 left-0 right-0 top-0 z-4 size-full max-h-none max-w-none bg-white hidden\"\/><\/div><figcaption class=\"relative text-sm mt-1 pr-2.5\">\n<p>Kyle Cooke and Amanda Batula attend Bravo&#8217;s &#8220;Summer House&#8221; Season 10 at 92NY on January 28, 2026 in New York City.<\/p>\n<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\"><em>Summer House<\/em> viewers happily rooted for Batula when the former couple released a joint statement on Instagram at the start of the year, and even more in March when Batula told <em><a rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.marieclaire.com\/culture\/tv-shows\/amanda-batula-summer-house-interview-2026\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:Marie Claire;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;context_link&quot;,&quot;yModuleName&quot;:&quot;content-canvas&quot;,&quot;yLinkText&quot;:&quot;Marie Claire&quot;}\" class=\"link \">Marie Claire<\/a><\/em> that she was ready for a casual romance. \u201cI want to have fun with someone my age or younger, since I\u2019ve always dated older. For now, while I heal, I just want to flirt and make out. To be taken on dates, and just enjoy being hot and happy,\u201d she explained.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">The perception among many <em>Summer House<\/em> fans was that Batula, who was one-third of a girl group with the show\u2019s most beloved cast members, Paige DeSorbo and Ciara Miller, was held back by her relationship with Kyle. A divorce, Batula\u2019s deepening friendship with Miller, and the promise of a fun, flirty romance seemed to usher in a new era. What fans got instead was the show\u2019s biggest scandal in its 10-season run.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">On March 31, after weeks of speculation and several denials, <a rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.sheknows.com\/entertainment\/articles\/1234988674\/summer-house-ciara-miller-react-amanda-batula-west-wilson\/\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" data-ylk=\"slk:Batula confirmed rumors that she was romantically involved with fellow cast member West Wilson;elm:context_link;itc:0;sec:content-canvas\" data-yga=\"{&quot;yLinkElement&quot;:&quot;context_link&quot;,&quot;yModuleName&quot;:&quot;content-canvas&quot;,&quot;yLinkText&quot;:&quot;Batula confirmed rumors that she was romantically involved with fellow cast member West Wilson&quot;}\" class=\"link \">Batula confirmed rumors that she was romantically involved with fellow cast member West Wilson<\/a>. In addition to being a friend of hers and her estranged husband, Wilson is an ex (and possibly a recently rekindled) flame of Miller, who Batula described to <em>Marie Claire<\/em> as \u201cone of the kindest, most loving, loyal friends I\u2019ve ever had.\u201d<\/p>\n<figure class=\"relative mb-4\">\n<div class=\"relative\"><img alt=\"Ciara Miller at Apple TV\u2019s \u201cYour Friends &amp; Neighbors\u201d Season 2 held at The New York Historical on March 30, 2026 in New York, New York.\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"960\" height=\"640\" decoding=\"async\" data-nimg=\"1\" class=\"rounded-lg\" style=\"color:transparent\" src=\"https:\/\/s.yimg.com\/ny\/api\/res\/1.2\/jl0PkFdTFDrx3EWWAQbSEQ--\/YXBwaWQ9aGlnaGxhbmRlcjt3PTk2MDtoPTY0MDtjZj13ZWJw\/https:\/\/media.zenfs.com\/en\/sheknows_79\/23ce4858d9fdeb1b46d9ca87cf9dc29c\"\/><button aria-label=\"View larger image\" class=\"group absolute bottom-0 size-full\" data-ylk=\"elm:expand;itc:1;sec:image-lightbox;slk:lightbox-open;\"><span class=\"absolute bottom-3 right-3 rounded-full bg-white p-3 opacity-100 shadow-elevation-3 transition-opacity duration-300 group-hover:block group-hover:opacity-100 md:p-[17px] lg:bottom-6 lg:right-6 lg:bg-white\/90 lg:p-5 lg:opacity-0 lg:shadow-none\"><svg viewbox=\"0 0 22 22\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"size-4 lg:size-6\" width=\"22\" height=\"22\"><path d=\"M12.372.92c0-.506.41-.916.915-.916L21 0l-.004 7.712a.917.917 0 0 1-1.832 0V3.183l-6.827 6.828-1.349-1.348 6.828-6.828h-4.529a.915.915 0 0 1-.915-.915M1.835 17.816l6.828-6.828 1.349 1.349-6.829 6.827h4.529a.915.915 0 0 1 0 1.831L0 21l.004-7.713a.916.916 0 0 1 1.831 0z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/button><dialog aria-label=\"Modal Dialog\" aria-modal=\"true\" class=\"fixed bottom-0 left-0 right-0 top-0 z-4 size-full max-h-none max-w-none bg-white hidden\"\/><\/div><figcaption class=\"relative text-sm mt-1 pr-2.5\">\n<p>Ciara Miller at Apple TV\u2019s \u201cYour Friends &amp; Neighbors\u201d Season 2 held at The New York Historical on March 30, 2026 in New York, New York.<\/p>\n<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">\u201cOur connection grew out of a genuine, long-standing friendship, which made it especially important for us to approach this with care,\u201d Wilson and Batula said in the joint message, posted on their Instagram Stories. \u201cWe also recognize that this has had an impact beyond just us and never wanted our actions to cause any hurt or be perceived as careless.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">According to DeuxMoi blind items, Reddit threads, and fan sightings, the pair\u2019s \u201cconnection\u201d was as casual and flirty as Batula wanted her first post-divorce relationship to be, but given its rippling impacts on Wilson and Batula\u2019s wider personal lives and the internet backlash that ensued after their announcement, it may not be the fun romance she was chasing.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">\u201cSo many post-divorce relationships aren\u2019t really about love, they\u2019re about relief, distraction, revenge or proving \u2018I\u2019ve still got it,&#8217;\u201d says Jackie Dorman, a relationship expert and author of <em>Modern Dating Sucks<\/em>. \u201cBut until you break the cycle, you\u2019ll keep ending up in the same situations: lather, rinse, repeat.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">A carefree romance after a harrowing breakup is an art form that only comes after doing the inner work. \u201cAs someone who\u2019s been through divorce and works with divorced women every day, I can tell you this: You don\u2019t just end a marriage, you either end the cycle or you keep repeating it,\u201d says Dorman.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">The instinct many fall victim to, Dorman says, is returning to what feels familiar. \u201cIf they were in chaos, they\u2019ll find chaos. If they felt unseen, they\u2019ll chase validation. If they over-functioned, they\u2019ll find someone who under-functions, but maybe in a different way than their ex,\u201d Dorman explains. \u201cIt\u2019s a different person, but the same or a similar dynamic.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">Batula admitted that she can be \u201ccodependent\u201d and, sure, who doesn\u2019t want to have some excitement after a separation? But, still, Dorman emphasizes that success in romance comes from the self-reflection that happens when you\u2019re single, otherwise you risk \u201ccontinuing the same story with a new character.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">\u201cGive yourself time to clear your heart lens and get honest about what actually happened, who you were in that relationship, and what needs to change moving forward,\u201d Dorman says.<\/p>\n<p class=\"mb-4 text-lg md:leading-8 break-words\">\u201cBefore rushing into something serious, ask yourself: Am I choosing this person because they\u2019re right for me or because they\u2019re available, exciting or I don\u2019t want to be alone? This isn\u2019t just about starting over. 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Summer House fans celebrated their breakup with TikTok edits of Batula and Cooke\u2019s many arguments set to the chorus of Chappell Roan\u2019s \u201cThe Subway,\u201d [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2355999,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"jnews-multi-image_gallery":[],"jnews_single_post":[],"jnews_primary_category":[],"jnews_social_meta":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[25172],"tags":[374026,457436,391505,457438,374418,457437,456863],"class_list":["post-2355998","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-entertainment","tag-amanda-batula","tag-batula","tag-ciara-miller","tag-jackie-dorman","tag-kyle-cooke","tag-kyle-cooke-and-amanda-batula","tag-west-wilson"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/Amanda-Batula-West-Wilson-The-Art-of-the-Chaotic.jpeg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2355998","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2355998"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2355998\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2356000,"href":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2355998\/revisions\/2356000"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2355999"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2355998"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2355998"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/celebrity.land\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2355998"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}