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Edie Falco and Jeremy Renner get candid with Drew Barrymore about raising teenage daughters
The threesome shares how they navigate some of the meaner things their kids have said to them
They then share their best advice on how to get through these tough years
Edie Falco, Jeremy Renner and Drew Barrymore are getting candid about raising their teenage daughters.
The threesome spoke during a Monday, Oct. 27 episode of The Drew Barrymore Show and shared their stories about the difficulties of raising their teenagers. Barrymore, whose daughter Olive just turned 13, turned to Falco to ask her advice on how to handle some of the ups and downs of teenagehood.
“How have you coped having a teenage daughter? Asking for Jeremy and I,” Barrymore said of her and Renner, who is dad to daughter Ava, 12.
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“Don’t take it personally. Don’t take any of it personally,” said Falco. The Sopranos star is mom to daughter Macy, 17, and son Anderson, 20.
A few seconds later, Barrymore asked how Falco can not take things personally when her daughter lashes out.
“I mean, for me it was a hard one because I took a lot of it personally,” Falco said. “And then we went through some real rocky times and through various workshops and parenting and this that and the other thing. I learned that she is individuating, I think is the word.”
“She’s becoming a separate person, and this is part of what she needs to do in order to do that. When you put them in like scientific terms, it’s much easier to manage,” she continued. “It’s not about me. And she says mean stuff, and she knows how to get at me.”
“They know how to push the buttons,” said Barrymore. “You all planted them together.”
“That’s exactly right. But when time passes and you don’t take this stuff personally, the fights go away quicker,” Falco said. “The healing happens much quicker. And she is 17 now. Four years past the worst. And she is probably my favorite person on the planet. Did not see that coming. We went through a lot.”
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Drew Barrymore, Edie Falco, and Jeremy Renner during filming of THE DREW BARRYMORE SHOW
Barrymore then turned to Renner, asking him how he’s able to not take some of what his daughter says personally.
“I changed the language in it. She is my number one and will always be my number one. But I’m not her number one anymore. I don’t know if I’m anywhere on the list,” joked the proud dad. “But I do have a very deep, deep relationship with her for two reasons.”
“Just being the male figure for her. We’re very very close in that way. And also the incident, the accident,” he continued, referring to his 2023 snowmobile accident that left him with over 30 broken bones. “She knew that her dad was not around. Now mind you, this doesn’t wipe the slate clean for me on that.”
Renner went on to say that his daughter was a little different from Falco and Barrymore’s kids, since she internalizes things rather than lashes out.
“She internalizes a lot and I see her struggle and that kind of really hurts me watching her struggle. You know, you don’t want to see your kid really suffer, and she really kind of does, as a lot of kids do,” he said. “So like you said, I don’t want to take things personally. I try to help her rationalize things out. I’m like, ‘What am I even doing this for? She doesn’t have a rational bone in her brain right now.’”
Barrymore agreed with Renner and said that for her, using humor has been a great way to “lift the veil” on their arguments.
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