‘Not With What I’ve Been Through’

Myá says she has never had a desire for marriage and children.

In a conversation with Melyssa Ford for the Hot and Bothered podcast, the singer shared why marriage and children have never been a driving force in her life.

“It’s not even my focus and it never has been,” the 45-year-old told Ford near the 24-minute mark in the video linked above, noting how witnessing her parents’ divorce and other experiences shaped her perspective from a young age.

“I’ve always thought a little different,” she said. “The white wedding dress, I was very fearful of those things, so I looked elsewhere and probably escaped too much in my work and ‘keep going.’ But also I think being independent has forced me to show up for myself and obviously family, friends, and this operation because I have a mission and I have a vision, but it requires me to be gone and that’s also very, very much fear filled.

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“Knowing that if I have to be gone 95% of the time, and my work calls for me to travel—that must be intimidating, and I also can’t show up properly for my significant other. But I’m also now spiritually aligned so much where I know that I’m surrounded by love everywhere I go, right?”

Myá insisted she is “not seeking” and that love “will be granted to me in divine time.”

“I’m not worried about it because my life is full of love and it comes in so many different forms—not just one person, so I’ve had to recalibrate my brain,” she added. “And not, I think, govern my life off of this fantasy or illusion that we’ve all been indoctrinated by or taught by … I’m very happy with myself, but that also required me to strip a lot of things that are expected of me on a specific timeline for the society that we grew up in to have. I’m talking about marriage, I’m talking about kids, and if you don’t have it, ‘something’s wrong with you,’ right?”

She added, “But did I desire it? No, not with what I’ve witnessed, and not with what I’ve been through.”

Still, the “My Love Is Like…Wo” singer remains open to the possibility, even if it hasn’t been a priority.

“Not to say it’s not possible, and I’m not open to it, you know? I’m open to all things, but right now I’m on a specific assignment. That’s all,” she said further into the episode.

“Just because it’s not on your timeline that you wish for [women], or what is expected of—and that goes for men too. I think everyone is an individual and we lead different lives. I don’t think everyone’s life is supposed to be congruent to each other. Live your life to the fullest and whatever and however that looks, it’s not supposed to look the same,” she concluded.

Myá threw a wedding ceremony for herself in early 2020, signing the Instagram post with “Officially Mrs. Lansky” in the caption. She has previously discussed her multi-year celibacy journey in an effort to improve her mental health.

Watch Myá’s episode of the Hot and Bothered podcast up top.