The Tea app, Are we dating the same guy, and gossip. All ways to say who is safe to be around, and all demonized, but are there more issues than fixes when whisper networks go online?
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Timestamps:
00:00 intro
02:42 the history of gossip and whisper networks
11:56 the dating apps and police don’t care about your safety
19:56 the good and the bad
30:25 the male rage
37:33 final thoughts
Recipe I used for the cake:
https://www.feastingathome.com/vegan-meyer-lemon-coconut-bundt-cake/
Book referenced:
Laura Bates – fix the system not the women
Silvia Federici – witches, witch hunting and women
Videos referenced:
@coffeeandcults https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Qs1WL4YPtk&t=1s
@TaylorLorenz https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CZUqGvOnLik
Whisper networks research paper: https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/communication/articles/10.3389/fcomm.2023.1089335/full
Sources:
https://www.404media.co/women-dating-safety-app-tea-breached-users-ids-posted-to-4chan/
https://apnews.com/article/tea-app-data-breach-leak-4chan-c95d5bb2cabe9d1b8ec0ca8903503b29
https://www.businessinsider.com/tea-dating-app-two-class-action-lawsuits-following-data-breach-2025-7
https://www.npr.org/2025/08/02/nx-s1-5483886/tea-app-breach-hacked-whisper-networks
https://inthesetimes.com/article/the-subversive-feminist-power-of-gossip
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/feb/13/tinder-hinge-match-investigation
https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/communication/articles/10.3389/fcomm.2023.1089335/full
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/feb/01/are-we-dating-the-same-guy-women-turn-to-facebook-to-uncover-cheating-and-violence
https://www.politico.com/news/2025/01/24/trump-issues-executive-orders-reviving-anti-abortion-policies-00200212
https://thehill.com/homenews/administration/5433244-trump-administration-revokes-biden-era-abortion-rule-for-veterans/
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/mar/11/what-is-pronatalism-right-wing-republican
https://people.com/chris-brown-arrests-controversies-11736267
https://www.theguardian.com/media/2024/feb/06/social-media-algorithms-amplifying-misogynistic-content
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https://www.hrw.org/news/2025/05/07/trump-spurs-global-rollback-rights-women-and-girls
https://www.unwomen.org/en/news-stories/press-release/2025/03/one-in-four-countries-report-backlash-on-womens-rights-in-2024
https://www.theguardian.com/technology/article/2024/aug/07/why-telegram-is-the-go-to-app-for-those-wanting-to-spread-toxic-information
https://www.instagram.com/sherelemoodyfemicidewatch/?hl=en
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2025/apr/27/dating-apps-user-decline
tiktoks referenced in order:
@tiffanycglow “Are we dating the same guy?” But better!! Let’s get more info onto the app so it helps more people!! 💕 @Tea Party Girls Club #datingapps #datingtips #datinghorrorstories #datingredflags #datingadviceforwomen #datinglife #datingadvice
@shey.luh Tea App Data Leak EXPLAINED 🚨📰🚨 TikTok Drama Pop Culture Breakdown How did the Tea App Data Breach Happen Celebrity News Update July 26 2025 📰 Whiteboard Girl Drama Explained #popculture #popculturenews #tiktokdrama #celebritynews #teaapp #chismestiktok
@itsnicolecolunga LADIES TEA APP LEAK WITH DRIVER LICENSES!!!! #teaapp #girlthings
♬ Ode to Joy- Symphony No.9 in D Minor ‘choral’ – Lorne Balfe & Russell Emanuel & Steve Kofsky
@heyitsjess800 The tea in these groups man 😭 #arewedatingthesameguy #dating #datingadvice
@yagirlandie_
@honeyitslisa1 Are we dating the same guy Facebook group ladies be careful
@motherfnmary I can’t even make this shhh up. #arewedatingthesameguy #putafingerdown #singlemom #fyp #wtf
@blackflowa GOOD MORNING 🤣😂 #dating #datingstorytime #storytime #BlackTikTok #blackdating #facebookdating #dallas #fyp #blackdating #blacklove #hinge
@kayla.g21 this wasn’t even the worst of the fight bc getting him to leave was a whole other situation.. on another note, if you’re not a part of those “are we dating the same man?” FB pages for your area you DEF should be bc girls are constantly posting receipts if they have suspicions. could save you your whole life potentially.
@cxnttagious Who knew Facebook was still useful #dating #satire #comedy #AWDTSG #facebook #viral #foryou #foryoupage #fypシ #healing #bedtimestories
@scotnational 🚨We asked fans queueing to see Chris Brown at Hampden Park, Glasgow, if they knew of his domestic violence record – and if it bothered them. Here’s what they had to say. #chrisbrown #glasgow #hampdenpark
